Is being Married the final act for creating Girl's Identity ???

Recently, I was talking to a good but close friend who unveiled a bitter truth to me -
"In Indian parochial society, the identity of a girl is nothing without a husband."
I'm not completely convinced with this premise but if it's true then the fact that Identity of a man is also created when he works or is in engaged in some profession otherwise its zilch.

So, If a man is not working or unemployed then he commands no respect from society
and is considered worthless.

Similarly a woman who's supposed to produce kids and raise a family has no identity without a husband and she is considered incomplete or devoid of social responsibility in this Profound World.

It's strange and funny that Our Lives are so entwined in the Social Circle that I feel we are slaves of Society or have surrendered ourselves to the master called - "SOCIETY".

Musing
VM : |

Do guys change after Marriage (Love) ?

The answer is a simple No!

We don't change, our love doesn't diminish with the age, we didn't break any promise ...

Though, I do not have a personal experience to narrate or share but I have inferred learnings from other relationships around me and more importantly have been able to feel it from the simulated situations like these (Plz! Don't ask me how)

I've have seen and listened to numerous examples from various sources in which the beloved girl urf Wife claims that the lover boy a.k.a Husband has changed phenomenally after marriage.

My Insight for all the Wives:

The truth is that we (guys) made you feel our love during the Lovie-Dovie times when we could think about only you, all Day & Night. Please understand that we could do it because we had the freedom to do it without any string attached. You would always quote the instances from school/ college days about all those mysterious yet special gestures we would do to make you feel a Special One, to keep you smiling and loving us more with every passing second. In fact, everyday spent pre-wedding has left a hypnotic spell on our minds and we never shy away from acknowledging it.

It is evident that one has to marry. Apparently, you seemed the apt choice and we felt that with you life's journey would be a smooth ride. Further, it's generally believed that if your partner is strong and can keep you motivated then Zor ka Jhatka Dheere se hi lagta hai.

Finally, after all the hard work and final verdict from series of proceedings in our Family Courtrooms, we got married.
Ah, it was an achievement of the Dream, wished together. An effort worth cherishing Life time :)

As planned and envisaged, after marriage, we started realizing other dreams of growing professionally with your much needed Support. As we got involved in other areas of life (reads: Work Targets, Social Pressures, Family issues, aging health), it lead to certain changes in our Time slicing with subtle effects on the freedom of our heart and mind.

Now, we may have lost those special ways of showing our Love to you, may don't even speak those 3 heavenly words quite regularly but it doesn't mean that we do no feel strong about you anymore.

"I do, you do and we do" is now a understood statement.
"Mine, your's and our's" is the future of Life.

Dear Wives! Please understand our heartfelt love for you not through words or actions but feel it in our heart beats which is filled with Lub-dubs of your Love. Honestly, it aches when we try our best to give you your share of our time but still find you unsatisfied.

Always remember this line "Love me the most when I deserve it the least". Nothing more to say ...

Just Be with us and accept these transitions in Life!

Amore
Vaibhav
On behalf of Romantic Lovers turned (Un)Romantic Husbands

Even Girls Ditch Boys

In my opinion, boys always get the blame of ditching a girl but the fact is that even girls ditch boys, when he is serious.

After observing many relationships, I have come to conclusion that if both are serious in a relationship (mind you I'm saying that Boy is serious as well) then the probability of girl dumping/ ditching a boy is much more than vice versa. But generally speaking there are very few cases in which boy is equally serious. So when girls ditch boys, it blows them upside down, their world gets shattered and they start living in inexpressible Oblivion.

Our Lovely girls would generally have different reason for this act like Family pressures, bringing disgrace to Siblings for this act, her Love for family. I do not want to deny the possibility of serious problem where moving on looks like a possible solution.

But a lot many times girls give unjustified reasons, which are completely baseless and perpetrated by their inclination for someone else or their loosing interest in a Lovie-dovie relationship. This is the worst feeling because its sheer Betrayal. A person can accept anything in Love but not the trustlessness as once it's broken, it's lost for Life.

I Believe - "If lovers are separated because of any exterior factor then at least there is a pious hope for return of the lover but in a betrayal there is only pain and agony".


Think about the poor fellow, who loved someone and indeed got betrayed for no fault of his. Ah! It gives me too much melancholy to see these kind of once a lovable couple now living separate lives (where moron Girl is happy).


Girls - You should and will never be forgiven for it.

Infuriated !
VM : |

Certain observations in Relations

The following are my general observations and experiences from past relations:

1. Love is always in the air, all you gotta do is feel it.

2. Very few people are lucky enough to find their Dream Girl but once you find her never ever let her go. Give her best of your Love.

3. In Love Life, always respect your relation, give apt space and make it worthwhile for both of you.

4. Don't look for a momentary pleasures rather have a long term happiness.

5. I believe in Destiny. Trust me, If you are destined to be loved by someone you love, it'll happen, maybe sooner or later.

6. I believe in ROLE REVERSAL, Everything in life takes one full circle. So, Beware buddy.

7. Only two person involved in a relation & Almighty God can understand the Chemistry between them.

8. Some moments in Life are to be just felt like Luxury, Ecstasy etc. Moments which have skipped your heart beat are truly the best ones.

9. It's Better to be Single than having a Wrong Mingle.

10. Heaven is a place in your Heart. (Jahan Dil Lag gaya wahin Jannat hai)

11. I feel that twinkling of Hearts is always more important than the charm of an attractive Body.

12. Don't indulge in a Disguised relation for later to be guilty of it.

13. The strength of a wireless relation is always more than of a connected relation. (Though pieces joined from the middle are always more stronger but it should be long term)

14. Always live with the facts and the truth will follow.

15. 23 vs 1: It's what you do with/ in 23 hours which is more important than may be around 1 hour (or may be few minutess) of Fun, Ecstasy etc etc. Whatever. LOVE HER!

I'll be adding more sooner or later whenever I realize it.

My Feelings/thoughts on Ideal Match

For me my ideal one is the one whose mind and heart resonates with mine in Simple Equilibrium.

She's just all "Mine" and I'd take a pride in saying so from the core of my heart.
Someone who's my Inspiration and completes me in Life.

I being a Single Woman Man really believe that -" It's Better to be Single than a Wrong Mingle". So, I'll wait for the right one.

1. It's Better to remain Single than a Wrong Mingle.
2. I'm

Convergence of Mother & Mother in Law

Some relations in this world are constant and have same intensity where ever you go like that of Lover, Mother-child and a "Peculiar" relation of Mother in Law (MIL) and Daughter in Law (DIL). Generally in sop operas it's not shown likable and always has it's own stories, mostly Bad.

When a daughter is married off to someone else, she enters a new family and links herself with new relations. A Lucky girl will have a Husband who is considerate towards her needs and shows vigor as of her Father.

The Luckiest girl will be the one who will find a Mother in Mother in Law and in the best case will feel that her MIL is better than her Mother. This will show the humbleness and maturity of that women (MIL). I believe such MIL's are the one who would always acknowledge the fact that they were themselves a daughter in law once. It's their duty to take care of their daughters ( which are actually daughter in laws in this case)

Mothers and their Kid's Education

Several times a thought passes my mind and it's about Mothers and their growing Kids. In growth part, the imparting of Education is an important aspect which Mothers do so nicely. It's difficult and a task full of patience to teach a kid.

I imagine my childhood when my mother must have taught me the first lessons of ABC & 123, what would have been her condition where I being so naughty and impatient. Every moment we kids would try to escape and reach to the Games, television or to my Bicycle.

Huh ! It's a humongous task and I can't even dream/think of teaching my Kids this stuff like ABC ... etc. I know it'll be prerogative of my Beloved Wife.

God ! - Mothers are truly exceptional and ur reward to Mankind.
I see them as Humanist by default

And then various chores of the day they have to perform.
Again, I reach to the same question " Where is her happiness, fulfilment of her wishes, her own Life".

~ Always Sacrificial in nature - ~

This World owes to the Mothers!

Note: Movies like "Taraa zameen Par" makes the role of mother very transparent for everyone to generalize. They love us even at our worst, What can be more profane than this ?

Aim of this Blog

Hi

I've created this Blog with a special purpose to spread awareness about Women's Life and also to share my understanding of women's eternal needs.
I believe that all the male counterparts should be more considerate and thoughtful towards them.

A Women has to go through some very bitter moments & experiences.
She's not just a tool of pleasure. Remember it.

Hope this page makes a difference in your Life.

Vaibhav : |

3 phases of a Women's Life

In last couple of years, I realized and felt that Girls are very Submissive (reads: accommodating, unassertive, non-resisting, self-effacing ) in nature. I have reached this conclusion based on my observations of following phases in her Life:

1'st phase : As a daughter she will always be doing things which will keep her parents (particularly Father) happy. She will do most of the time what they wish, On rare occasions she would try to do or ask for something or look for fulfillment of her wishes.

2'nd phase: When she marries the Boy chosen by her Father. She would start looking for happiness by doing things which her husband approves of or things to his liking. In many instances she would have to kill her desires & wishes to keep HIM happy. What a Sacrifice!

3'rd phase: When she gives birth to a Baby then she will start finding happiness in her baby's smile. The entire world is seen as a Congenial place if her baby is Happy and calls her “Mummy”.

As the time passes by and the baby grows - If it's daughter she would imbibe her learnings of Life in her by saying “ The truth of Life is Sour, Accept it” and If boy she would in most cases would try to be happy if He gives an iota of respect to her mother. Mothers generally support their Kids at so many places and worst even when they are knowing he is wrong.

Supporting and Loving others without even thinking about their own self wishes and happiness.

I wonder how girls/Women are so Sacrificial in nature. My sincere Gratitude to this beautiful creation of God.

- VM